RULE 1: Work on You
This is a special blog just for single ladies that are like me ..Dating isn't going so well and you ready to be found! I want to share my journey of dating and love in hopes it encourages you. I was once married so this dating thing has been hard. Feel free to contact on topics or questions: kinyatalj@gmail.com
Looking into those dreamy eyes I just knew that he was the one! Then, I realized so was the one before. The one before that was the one too. Something I was doing was not working. You have to be real with yourself and accept your fault in the decisions you make. You also have to be patient and kind to yourself. I was not ready to date. No matter how many books I read on men the information was invalid if I did not become what I desired. I had to become love! So, I started my journey on focusing on my part which was to be in a position to be found. It may sound weird but it was true. The man does the finding but you have to be at the right head/heart space to be content with staying hidden until God reveals your location. How do you prepare? You start with studying Gods' word.
1 Corinthians If I could speak all the languages of earth and of angels, but didn’t love others, I would only be a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. 2 If I had the gift of prophecy, and if I understood all of God’s secret plans and possessed all knowledge, and if I had such faith that I could move mountains, but didn’t love others, I would be nothing. 3 If I gave everything I have to the poor and even sacrificed my body, I could boast about it;[a] but if I didn’t love others, I would have gained nothing.4 Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud 5 or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. 6 It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. 7 Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.
We will start at the first verse If I could speak all the languages of earth and of angels, but didn’t love others, I would only be a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal.
Think about a cymbal. It is slammed together to make an unique but noticeable sound. It is usually accompanied by other instruments. God shows us here that language means nothing if actions are not implemented. The cymbal is used to let us know that words are good but no action will cancel out the words spoken.
The AMP version states If I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love (for others growing out of God's love for me). Having a relationship with God is a requirement for knowing how to love. God is love so you can only learn true AGAPE love from the creator.
Sis, if he has no relationship with God he can not love you. If you don't have a relationship with Christ you can't love him! This season you gotta be real with where you are in your walk. You will not receive the love you desire until you nurture your relationship with God! That's right the same way you would date a man you need to date God. Once, you are honest with yourself this journey of being found will become easier!
You got this beautiful! Stay focused....KinyatalJ.